幾天前上班時和外表壯碩的大哥討論了不少。叫他做大哥並不是因為他年紀比我大很多，也不是因為他職位比我高，而他的品格和對家庭的責任感令我敬佩。
大哥已經是個有家室的人，除了正職之外，他還有當一些體力勞動的兼職以幫補家計。所以，偶爾大哥工作上出了亂子，我也沒有怪他，因為他真的辛苦了。他賺的錢，不是為了自己，而是希望家人可以過得舒服點，給子女最好的。換了是我，相信我不能同時應付兩個工作吧。
我們在工作空檔時說起了他跟老婆的關係，真想不到經常逗女生笑的大哥對太太非常忠心。他說太太為了他生孩子，他怎麼樣不會愛太太一輩子。偶爾他會投訴太太喜歡管他，我開解他，就勸他不要常常口不擇言，生了孩子的女人也許安全感會減少，我也相信大哥在著充滿美女的工作崗位從來沒有越軌過呢
大哥跟我分享了其中一個夫妻相處之道：犧牲
犧牲不一定是要把生命交予對方的意思。是在日常生活中，一個人如何為了家人和愛人，更改和甚至戒掉一些個人習慣和喜好。例如，像他把空餘的時間都拿去賺錢，以前跟三五成群的大伙兒去開車，去趴的日子都不復了。他說他是個暴躁的人，可是為了太太的工作，他也減少和人家的衝突。
大家如果有讀過我之前的文章，相信也有讀過我提過KL的行為。他怎樣為自己的家付出？沒聽說過他們家有過甚麼驚險的情節出現過，日常生活有不相讓，男的不要去香港工作，女的又不甘願來加拿大相夫教子。男的沒有兼職，只得一份僅夠糊口的工作，聽說女的家境不錯，經常可以停薪留職，難道他們就覺得這樣已經足夠嗎？女的就不提，難道男的就只會花家裡的錢，或者是有計劃地吞噬女家的財產？一歲不夠的孩子和老婆睡了，你就想著出去喝酒。家庭生活對你來說是否就像上下班？KL你做男人的骨氣和責任在哪裡？你這個勾三搭四的雙性戀，會不會反省？我跟你分手的決定是絕對正確的。你繼續跟李蓮英沉淪吧
一個願打，一個願捱，或許他老婆喜歡這種痛愛的快感。但是，孩子應該是無罪吧。在一個長期分隔，只靠電話維繫的家庭長大的孩子，他的將來會怎樣？
Brother and I talked a lot few days ago when we were at work. I call him brother not because he is neither a lot older nor at higher position than me. But, I adore his characters and sense of responsibility to family.
Brother engaged himself in both full time job and a physical demanding part time job. He works hard to give his family a better life. Therefore, I won't say much if he is not doing well on his tasks because I know his living is tough. If I were him, I would believe I can't handle two jobs.
While we were having a coffee break, he mentioned his family life. I was surprised he is 100% loyal to his wife although he always teases and seems flirty other girls in workplace. He said since his wife carried and gave birth in his stake, there is no reason to betray and leave his wife. He occasionally complaint his wife of being bossy. I told him many wives tend to be less secured after giving birth. Of course, I trust brother had never done any betrayal act behind his wife.
Then, brother shared with me to sacrifice is one if the core values in a married relationship.
The "sacrifice" not necessarily to give ones life to his/her other half. It is more like the extend one can give up his hobbies and personal habits because of living with his loved ones. For instance, he quitted partying and driving out with his gangs after having kids. Also, he had been trying to restraint himself from conflicting with the others because he had to maintain his wife's interpersonal relationship in her work place
If you have read my previous articles, you would know how shitty my ex KL is. How does he contribute to his family? Never heard of anything thrilling in his family life. Also, he is not going to relocate to HK while his wife refuses to settle down in Canada. I wonder how his family survive with his current salary without a part time job. According to insider information, the wife's family is wealth enough to afford her to take unpaid leave all the time. Is KL spending his own family's wealth or planning to decay his wife's family wealth? How could he sneak out for bars and drinks while his wife and son (below one year old) were sleeping? Is family life like a job to him that he needs to sign in and out? KL, are you still a man? Where are your integrity and responsibilities gone? You are such a bisexual slut, have you ever thought? I made a right decision to break up. Please continue your fun with that eunuch!
Maybe his wife is enjoying hyper coming from these bitterness. But, their kid is innocent. I can't imagine how a kid grows up under such a family which is only linked up by long distance phone call.
