Silent all these years..

My annual leave is almost done soon. To conclude it, I think I am constructive so far because I managed to have a better diet plus regular exercises in the past 10 days. To develop my intellectual quality, I composed around 10 writings and posted on this blog.  I believe I could still continue this after returning to work this saturday.  Guess what, I start to think if I should join a local gym in HK as I am too shy to work out in my company's gym.  Any suggestions?  I am going to be in HK around 6 days a month on average. Let me know the best deals in town please!!  Haha

Multi tasking is always my problem in the sense that I don't have to rush to get all things done such as skin care, hair care and dinner at the same time.  Come on!!  I am not yet at work!!  Still 3 more days to go.  Why should I need to align myself to work mode? Well, I guess from some hidden parts of my brain, I always worry I would forget some of my ideas of writing.  Very irritating, all those ideas are just coming up whenever I am occupied with something (e.g. workout, at work) when I can't have an access to computer!!  WTF.. 

Was reading an interesting article, from Alexander, which raised this question, "Do you have the right to remain silent?"  This can be a good topic for a thesis for any philosophy courses across the planet.  To make it easier, let's apply this question on a relationship.

To me, I would say yes.  But depends on various factors.  For instance, maturity of a relationship, expectations from both sides of a relationship, communications methods of both parties and respect between the two.

Maturity of a relationship.  Initially, both sides would have lots of sharing because both are curious and thrilled to get to know a new guys.  When staying longer, there would be some kind of non black and white nor verbal agreements which reduce the conversations.  Maybe this is a possibility that both sides are getting tired and bored.  That's where silence starts.

Depending on individual, unfortunately, many people choose to run away from "concluding" a relationship perhaps they are too irresponsible, not capable to speak out, or not brave enough.  The worst I could think of is whether those people ever engaged and contributed (These can be tangible or intangible) to the relationship.  In other words, do they take relationship seriously.  I have learned not to expect the other party would do what I am expecting him to as discrepancy exists all the time between the two brains.

While we are responsible human beings who love to establish communications with the lover, the other party may perceive one way communications work better for him.  Particularly, those self-centered ones who always plays with the word "privacy".
 
Many of my past romances ended with mysteries.  At the beginning, I had strong strives to look for that person and seek for explanations in order to send me to executions.  The processes were horrible because I knew that the results were gonna be cruel. Later, I have learned why I should prolong the length of those days before "executions."  Instead of all those sufferings, I am getting used to all these sudden disappearance.  As time goes by, seems playing "hide and seek" is a common norm in the community.  I have to emphasize I will also inform the other party to finish once I have realized things are not getting right because I understand and accomplish "respect".

There is never a fair deal between the two in a relationship. 

Sorry, Alexander, I definitely don't mean to say something offensive to you under this unusual period.  Just that I want to express some of my thoughts basing on my past failures.  There are numerous guys turned themselves on silent mode towards me since my first love.  I have never blamed them.  The wounds cure themselves quicker and quicker as that how the real world works.  I feel sad because the value of love is getting fragile. At the same time, I am proud of insisting my outdated values of respecting even I am suffering from different levels of silence all these years.  I always keep in mind that there is no standard procedures nor legal requirement in any forms of relationship.