Thursday, 25 October 2012

Simplicity

阿力和他伴侶的12年關係讓我覺得敬佩。

沒有豪華的慶祝,但卻:去打網球,去家附近的公園逛逛,把舊照片存作電腦檔案,提早回家準備晚餐和蛋糕。簡單的東西,卻可以帶出平淡和知足的快樂。

應該感受著是他們今天的快樂,可是一邊看,心底一邊湧出惋惜和心酸。他在文章裡面參雜了現在帶著心理上沈重的包袱,健康及未來的未知數和繁忙的工作壓力下來進行今天的慶祝活動。過去三個月來的事情所捲起的千噸風浪直接衝擊了這段12年的關係。也許,12年的光景太長,儘管之前為對方許下的承諾亦繼續兌現,不過昔日的愛情和激情都似乎退色了,大家都把對方當作為家人般的關心。

我快要流淚了,要趕緊寫完

沒有多姿多彩的火花,沒有外間的引誘,沒有手機交友程式,即使感情乏味如清水,有可能都會很快樂。

一個決定,掉入萬丈深淵。


他過去的文章我都有在閱讀,加上自己的經歷,心裡不停重覆著幾個問題:不好的人改過叫做浪子回頭,好人犯錯卻被打進18層地獄,天理何在?大家一邊看著他數落RC,一方面勸他不要被過去拖累,我那邊廂又不經意喚醒了對KL的記憶,到底我有否把KL放低?甚麼時候我才可以走出陰影?

最近我想了很多,是時候返回“簡單”嗎?

The 12 years relationship between Alex and his parter is really adorable.

There is nothing extravagant for the anniversary:  playing tennis, walking in the park near to home, scanning the old pictures to computer, getting home early for dinner and preparing a cake.  It was not a fancy celebration but happiness of simplicity is sweet and tasteful.

I should feel happy for them but my heart turned sour as I am reading his article.  He interlocks today's happiness with the uncertainties and stress, coming from his health and job, that he is facing these days.  All happened in the past there months created a wave, which weights thousands tons, crushing this relationship directly.  Perhaps, 12 years were too long.  Although both are still keeping the promises made at the beginning, the colors of the love and feelings are likely fading.  They are kind of treating each other as treating a family member.

My tears are dropping soon.  Have to finish this asap

We might feel the happiness from a plain relationship better without an exciting life,  temptations and any smartphone's apps.

We were like falling into a deep gorge after we had made a decision.

Adding what he has been writing to my personal experience, there are questions repeatedly flashing across my mind:  The bad guys are appreciated and forgiven as they are doing right things while the good guys are sent to hell even they have only made one mistake.  What is the logic?  While everyone is telling him to get the past memories go, I am recalling my times with KL.  Did I let him go?  Has been almost two years already, when I could complete step out of this? 

There have been too many thinking recently.  Is it time to return myself to the word "simplicity"? lol